Children Need Both Parents

   One of the best days of my life was almost four years ago; my son was born. Loving that boy is all I lived for at that point.  Unfortunately, the next 10 months would be the  HARDEST time of my life.  The mother of my son was to put gently; less than loyal.  Regardless of HER indiscretions, I was the one that had to suffer.

   I’m sure we all know parents that have separated. Separation and co-parenting does not always have to be a bad thing. In fact, some times it is for the best.  Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. Some parents are so stupid and immature that they use an innocent child to hurt the other parent 

    In my case, my son was kept from me for weeks at a time until she got her way. It’s was like the child we made had become her own personal ATM.  It wasn’t always about money though. Sometimes if the wind was blowing in the wrong direction I couldn’t see my child. I would try everything to see him, give her anything and everything she wanted.  Nothing I gave or did was ever enough though.  I got so desperate when he was about 4 months old that I took her back just to see him. I was living in HELL.

     It saddens me that the society we live in makes it easy for this to happen. A parent keeping a child away from another loving parent is disgusting.  Depriving a parent of their child should be kidnapping and should be punished as such. How do some not realize they are hurting people; most of all their child?  I would do anything to see a smile on my kid’s face.

   All the blame isn’t solely on the parent, the court system also holds their fair share. It is 2017, how the fuck is their still so much bias when it comes to custody of a child? Study after study shows children need both parents.  Yet, the children’s needs are still being disregarded. I don’t think enough attention and resources have been thrown into this matter. Children are our future and some of them are being set up for failure. 

   It is time that something is done about this. Both parents need to be treated fair and just. 

Twitter: @UnspokenQuarrel



A Look Within

Earlier today I created my first blog.  The intentions of my blog are to say what most people want but never will. I was picking my brain to find the perfect topic for my second post.  With all the bullshit in the world there are tons of topics, but not one seemed right.  It wasn’t until my wife and I had a disagreement that I came up with a solid topic.  The hardest person to call on their shit is myself.

As human beings we have this tendency to think we are always right, and I am by no means the exception.  There are times when I do things that I just called someone a fucking idiot for, and guess what….I think I’m right in the situation.  We don’t always stop and analyze ourselves.  Almost every time my wife tells me I’m fucking up I think she is just being over dramatic.  It’s not until an hour later when it sinks in that she is right.  I have this problem with admitting that I’m wrong.  She may have me dead to rights, but I still fight it.  I let pride put strain on an almost perfect marriage.  Why is that?  I think it’s because I do not stop enough to call bullshit on myself.

When I was young my grandma would tell me “don’t write checks with your mouth that your ass can’t cash.”  Hard to believe that 20+ years later I still do.  Life is full of too many hard times already, we shouldn’t bring more on ourselves.



Twitter: @UnspokenQuarrel

My Beginning

In my 25 years I have never had the urge to write. In school I loathed English class. I would sit at my desk thinking “who the fuck cares where the coma goes if I’m getting my point across.” Along side of that fuck it attitude came a serious lack of creativity. I am the type of person who would take 20 minutes to figure out how two triangles made a square. Therefore, up until now I have had no desire to write. Recently I was inspired from a show about a novelist. I wasn’t inspired by his lifestyle, but his ability to say exactly what he was thinking. He didn’t seem to give a shit what anyone thought. I know it is a fictional show, but more people should be this way. Too many go through life never saying what’s on their minds. I found with that thought came my inspiration. I intend to write through all the bullshit and tell people what I am really thinking. This is my first ever post and all feedback would graciously be accepted. 
Twitter: @UnspokenQuarrel